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Old August 19th, 2011, 5:42 am
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How to convey friendship, not romance.

In my current project, I want to convey that this boy and girl are JUST FRIENDS, without drawing attention to it, kind of like the Harry/Hermione thing: they just WEREN'T. How do you interject feelings of friendliness without the reader feeling romance? The thing is, I actually do plan on shipping these characters, but not for a long, LONG time. This could get complicated....


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Old August 19th, 2011, 6:20 pm
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Well one thing you could do is just not emphasize anything. With Harry and Hermione they just are. You see them hanging out and doing things for each other, so it's just sort of understood. You don't need to try to make the audience understand, especially if your character has another friend he treats the same way. If you're really worried about it, make it painfully obvious when he does "like" someone, so it's clear he doesn't like this girl (when he gets a crush, he keeps staring at her on accident, that kind of thing; since he doesn't stare at his friend he must not like her that way).


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Old August 22nd, 2011, 7:44 pm
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Re: How to convey friendship, not romance.

You have to remember that all readers read differently and though you are not intentionally putting these two characters in a relationship situation, you cannot tell your audience they are not allowed to ever 'ship' the characters.

For some people, Harry and Hermione was a very obvious 'beyond friendship' relationship. Every reader is different.


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You have to remember that all readers read differently and though you are not intentionally putting these two characters in a relationship situation, you cannot tell your audience they are not allowed to ever 'ship' the characters.

For some people, Harry and Hermione was a very obvious 'beyond friendship' relationship. Every reader is different.
That kind of puts responsibility on the reader though, when it's really up to the writer to make things clear. I'm not sure I agree with that philosophy.


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That kind of puts responsibility on the reader though, when it's really up to the writer to make things clear. I'm not sure I agree with that philosophy.
If readers didn't interpret things differently, there would never be any book clubs or discussions about books. The same thing is true of movies and art, music and even television.


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If readers didn't interpret things differently, there would never be any book clubs or discussions about books. The same thing is true of movies and art, music and even television.
Yes, but relationships aren't as interpretable as most other elements in a book (wishful thinking aside). There's a difference between malleable things like themes and meanings and the concrete (who is paired with who, what floor the Charms classroom is on, etc, leaving out things like author error).


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Re: How to convey friendship, not romance.

Have one of them ask the other for advice about a realtionship with another character. If the other one helps them out, it will show that both are comfortable with their relationship as being just friends.


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Have one of them ask the other for advice about a realtionship with another character. If the other one helps them out, it will show that both are comfortable with their relationship as being just friends.
That is...beautifully functional and simple. Occam approves.


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the thing is, i DO want them to end up together....EVENTUALLY.


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delusions and interpretations are not the same thing. JK did a fantastic job conveying a friendship between a boy and a girl with no hints of romance and re-reading their scenes together, along with chapters in other books with strong male/female friend characters would be a good idea. Read read read. That's the best way to lean how to do.


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Re: How to convey friendship, not romance.

I was wondering the opposite (sorry to be difficult) but how do you subtley convey love? without making it too errrrmmmm.....obvious


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Re: How to convey friendship, not romance.

It's all about body language. Don't say that a character was falling in love with another character. Say that the character did things, like a flick of the hair, or noticed things about the other character that imply there's a deeper attraction. You have to be very careful though, because it would be very easy to go overboard and make it too obvious.


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Well one thing you could do is just not emphasize anything. With Harry and Hermione they just are.
Fabulous advice. Even if you want the characters to end up together eventually, the best way to keep the element of surprise is to avoid any focus on the nature of their relationship until you're ready for the characters to explore it as well. That way, when they do finally start noticing that their friend might be something to desire, it will be a revelation for everyone.


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Re: How to convey friendship, not romance.

There's this scene in my book where Maggie (the main character) is being followed by theses drunk dudes, and a guy from her school (tristan) comes to the rescue in his car. Tristan and Maggie are sort of friends. And Maggie isn't looking for a relationship, but I don't really know how to say that, she just wants to become better friends with him and nothing more.


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Re: How to convey friendship, not romance.

Just have something about how much she enjoys the single life.


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Re: How to convey friendship, not romance.

Well,that depends on the point of view.If it is in 1st person,that is not one of these two people,try to have the person speaking have a crush on of them,depending on gender.That might be a bit over complicated,but the speaker will be focused on that person,so if there are any *signs* of romance,the speaker would miss it.If there is a narrator,try to have them to be together a lot,but they will also tease each other more then a crush would.


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Re: How to convey friendship, not romance.

I think, mainly just avoid sudden revelations that one realizes about the other.Such as, "I never knew (girl's) eyes were so blue. They are like a stormy sea, but on her, they are beautiful." or "I just grabbed his hand, like I've done so many times before. This time, it was different. I felt a little shock, and it almost made me flinch." See? That's dripping with emotion. You might try, "I looked into her eyes, and saw that stormy blue that I was so familiar with stare back at me. I found comfort in that, and knew things would never change between us." and " I grabbed his hand, like I always did when I was scared. I felt the hard rough calluses under his fingers, and the smooth soft skin of his palm. I felt that, and they reminded me that even with the world falling down, we will never change, and he will always be my best friend."


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Re: How to convey friendship, not romance.

Decide on a common emotion for them to bond upon.

Then base their friendship on shared experiences


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